Giusy Buscemi, back on TV in the new Canale5 drama as the protagonist of Vanina – An assistant commissioner in Cataniawas a guest of Hyenas and moved the audience with a monologue on motherhood and work. It is certainly not the first time that a mother expresses the difficulties encountered in reconciling the role of worker, in this case of actress, with that of parent. But Giusy Buscemi gave us a touching reminder, also asking some unexpected questions: “Why do we still have to choose between being mothers and workers?”
Giusy Buscemi’s monologue
But here are her words: “We are continually asked to choose, life is made up of choices, it’s true, but as long as it comes to choosing what to buy at the supermarket or which book to read, everything is fine, but if the choice is between becoming a mother or making a career then is complex.” Giusy explained that for an actress, reconciling family and work is almost impossible, so much so that she went so far as to say that motherhood is non-existent for actresses: “At 19 I moved to Rome, I wanted to be an actress. Then I met the man of my life, priorities changed. I wanted a family, children. Well, if for all working women motherhood is still a tough battle, for actresses motherhood simply doesn’t exist“.
Goodbye work with pregnancy
The actress then said that when she became pregnant with her first daughter, she lost a job: “I go back to work, I get pregnant with my second child. For honesty, before signing the contract I said I was pregnant, and just as honestly I was told that the insurance does not cover pregnant actresses. I lose my job again. My second child is born. I spent months in which I felt divided: on the one hand the joy of becoming a mother, on the other the fear, fear that nothing would go back to the way it was before.”
The split mother
The dilemma is the one that afflicts many mothers who divide themselves between caring for their children and work: “And I continue to experience this split every day: when I’m at work I think of my children, and when I’m with my three children – because in the meantime the third was also born – between baby food, games and screams, I won’t hide from you that I would like to return to the set. Today I am a working mother, like many others. Tired, split, but somehow I’ve made peace with the idea of perfection, maybe it exists but it’s not for me.”
Better not to choose
The monologue ends with the question: “And if we could not choose, if we could not be afraid of having a child because then we would have to give up our career, if we could not feel guilty for having made one or the other decision, what kind of world would it be?“. The actress’s reflections on work and motherhood have also opened a debate among the public and followers: on the one hand there are those who share her difficulties, on the other those who accuse her of being privileged and of having little to complain.
03/28/2024
