Federico Fashion Style, stage name of Federico Lauri, suffered a very violent homophobic attack. An episode that touched him deeply, perhaps wounding him more in his soul than in his body. He talked about it on social media and in more detail at very true.
Federico Fashion Style attacked
It all happened on board a train leaving Milan and heading towards Naples. He was headed to Campania for work and, aware of the fact that there had been a delay, he was turned to the train conductor for information.
Behind him, however, a man who he defines as “monster” he began to record it with your cell phone. It all started like this. When Lauri asked him to stop, the man first denied the evidence and then verbally attacked him.
“He told me that I am the clown of Italy and that I should sit still and remain silent.” After asking the train conductor to alert the police on board so he can file a complaint, the man tells him: “Go and sit down, you fucking bastard”.
From here on the situation deteriorated rapidly. The attempt to make him reason was useless, since Lauri was soon hit with a punch in the facefollowed by tugs and various blows: “He slammed my face against the engineer’s cab. I don’t remember exactly what happened. They called the ambulance and everyone there protected me”.
The attacker, Lauri revealed, declared that he had intervened to protect the conductor, who the famous hairdresser was attacking, according to him: “The conductor, however, testified to the truth”.
In hospital he complained of severe head pain and vomiting. He underwent a CT scan and another awaits him next week. The hospital medical report was as follows: “Craniofacial trauma, with a 15-day prognosis”.
As mentioned, however, the greatest pain is the one he felt inside, which still hasn’t left him. He has not been able to leave home at night since. During the day, however, he feels observed after what happened. However, he said he was happy and surprised to have found such great support online.
Life after coming out
One year after his painful coming out, Federico Lauri’s life has definitely changed. That choice cost him dearly, he explained. But it was something that he could no longer remain silent. He always knew who he was, he says, but he was with someone he loved deeply and he had to take into consideration everything that announcement would entail.
“I had my instincts, even though we had a normal boyfriend relationship. So I decided to tell her what I am.” She therefore said that her daughter’s mother had known about her for a long time. Long before the big public announcement.
He therefore wanted to send an important message of freedom. Being homosexual is not a disease, homophobia is, she explains. Many don’t feel free, because they think about what others might think, like their parents for example.
“Life is beautiful and should be enjoyed, I didn’t do it. If I had said it before, I wouldn’t be in this dramatic situation now, also due to the separation I’m experiencing. I see my daughter but surreal things happen. I need social workers and I can call my daughter in the morning at 8am and in the evening at 8pm.”
The break up
The interview with Silvia Toffanin then pushed Federico Lauri to address the issue of his separation in detail. His ex isn’t making his life easy, as a father, he explains. His point of view is very clear. He cannot understand the fact that previously, when they were still together, nothing would have stopped him from talking to his daughter up to 30 times a day. Now, however, he has alarms on his cell phone because at all other times, except at 8am and 8pm, he receives no answer.
“This is a separation purely linked to the economic aspect. If I gave her what she wanted, I would be the nicest person in the world. I left my home, the one given to me by my parents. The judge assigned it to my daughter and it has remained closed for these two years. In fact, you say it’s not accessible. However, the custody ruling will be issued shortly”.
His bitterness is great and he is keen to give a message of hope to the many fathers who experience the same situation as him. He is keen to reiterate how mothers are at an advantage somehow in the separation processes.
After all this, he says he is ready to rebuild a normal relationship, especially for the sake of the daughter they share. At present it is like living in a limbo that hurts everyone. For example, he is unable to even consider the idea of starting a new life today.
“It’s not the time because I’m at a stage in life where I think about everything except love. The only love I feel is for my daughter, who I want to be happy.”
