OfSimona Marchetti
In a long interview with “Vanity Fair” the 44-year-old singer-songwriter spoke about himself with an open heart, also talking about the recent divorce from her husband Victor Allen
An open-hearted story, ranging from the eating disorders from which she suffered in the past and which have become relevant again after the recent controversies with Mara Maionchi to the painful divorce from her husband Victor Allen; from the boundless love for their children to the anger of not being able to return to Italy with them, because our country does not recognize double paternity. He’s a Tiziano Ferro 360° of what was told from the pages of “Vanity Fair” which dedicated a cover and interview to him.
«Speaking of bulimia, today I do not and do not want to make an apology for obesity – explained the 44-year-old singer-songwriter, referring to the problems he had as a child – but until yesterday a child was taken to the dietician just because he was five kilos more than expected . That is a cruel mechanism who branded me, because I will feel fat forever and nothing will ever change my mind. I will walk down the street feeling fat even though I’m not. And I will perpetually feel inadequate.”
In this context, adults play a key role. «Parents are fundamental in this. And so are educators. And the managers. And here yes, I am referring to Mara Maionchi. I love her and I’m sure that twenty years ago these discussions weren’t so clear. But today a radical change of pace must be made, because mental health is a practical thing, which must be practiced. It is a moral obligation to tell people, to artists, that the body is not a negative constraint for their art. I believe that Mara and many other people have not achieved enough how traumatic and painful that attitude is which is forever imprinted in the unconscious and in the existence of still fragile children. Today I lose their good faith. But we need to make a mea culpa and no longer take this topic lightly.”
His private life was recently turned upside down due to divorce, from which, however, the artist learned an important lesson. «Victor has made my love life more beautiful and complex. Ours was a beautiful love but, honestly, also painful. One thing I understood: I could not and should not abandon myself to the idea of divorce as failure, a tempting trap that deludes you into remaining stuck in that comfort zone that is pain. I thank the complexity and three-dimensionality of the relationship with Victor, which allowed me to move forward.” His two sons gave him a big hand in overcoming these difficult moments. Margherita and Andreswho arrived in her life (and that of her ex-husband) in February 2022, when they were 9 and 4 months old.
«She got there first. If it is true that I sought fatherhood with a stubbornness that only those who have lived it can know, it is also true that these experiences come with an enormous baggage of doubts and uncertainties – Ferro continued -. But when I held this little girl in my arms, it was like realizing I was ready to be a dad. One of the fundamental problems of my adolescence was never feeling enough, always having the doubt of not being up to par. That little girl in my arms, however, told me that there was no doubt. In fact, I discovered that for them I have a cheek that I don’t have for anyone, that I have a physical strength that I didn’t know I had. I know, these are things all parents say. But it’s the truth. Hugging Andres, however, was like holding a hot stone to your chest that warms you to your heart. I said to myself: but who are you? Who is this powerful, special child? What is this love that burns to my heart?”.
The sore point is that for now the singer – who has lived in Los Angeles for years – cannot return to Italy with his children, because the law forbids it. «It hurts me that my children’s rights are denied, because we are all equal and with equal rights: why should they have less? Why does Victor need a power of attorney to take them to school or take them to the hospital when I’m not there? I think that politicians and people who foment hatred and homophobia are people who fail to put a human face on love. They prefer to put a label where there are faces, where there is love, where there are people.”
Speaking of love, for now it’s absolute zero on that front. «With two small children, the last thing you want is to start a new relationship – Ferro admitted -. At this moment I don’t have the slightest intention to enter into that meeting mechanism. If it happens, it will be like the rest of my life, where things happened by chance, as by chance I found myself living in Los Angeles. However, I really like one thing: my two children have given me the gift of immunity from Fomo, the fear of not being present at parties, parties, events, the lives of others. And no, I don’t use apps: I repeat, I prefer that everything happens by chance».
May 9, 2024
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