The management of the divorce from her husband Victor, everyday life with her two children Margherita and Andres, the true friends who saved her. Again: Italy that does not recognize double paternity to its children, the value of the failures and weaknesses shown, the role of educators and managers, with reference to Mara Maionchi. In the interview given Vanity Fair, Tiziano Ferro he addressed all the themes that characterized his last, complicated period of life.
DIVORCE
Speaking about his recent divorce, Ferro talked about the private management of his farewell to his partner Victor: “One thing I understood: I couldn’t and shouldn’t give myself up to the idea of divorce as a failure, tempting trap that deludes you into remaining stuck in that comfort zone that is pain. I thank the complexity and three-dimensionality of the relationship with Victor which allowed me to move forward.”
CHILDREN
Speaking about his two children, the singer said: “She came first. When I held this little girl in my arms, it was like I knew I was ready to be a dad. You see, one of the fundamental problems of my adolescence was never feeling enough, always having the doubt of not being up to par. That little girl in her arms, however, told me that there was no doubt. In fact, I discovered that for them I have a cheek that I don’t have for anyone, that I have a physical strength that I didn’t know I had. I know, these are things all parents say. But it’s the truth. Hugging Andres, however, was like holding a hot stone to your chest that warms you to your heart. I said to myself: but who are you? Who is this powerful, special child? What is this love that burns to my heart?”
THE PROBLEM OF DOUBLE PATERNITY IN ITALY
In the interview, Ferro spoke about the great problem of not being able to return to Italy for legislative reasons: “It hurts me that my children’s rights are denied, because we are all equal and with equal rights: why should they have less? Why does Victor need a power of attorney to take them to school or take them to the hospital when I’m not there? I think that politicians and people who foment hatred and homophobia are people who fail to put a human face on love. They prefer to put a label where there are faces, where there is love, where there are people.”
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MENTAL HEALTH
The artist, who has addressed problems such as bulimia, depression, alcohol, also spoke about a delicate topic such as mental health: “Mental health is a complex topic that cannot be resolved with a live broadcast or a story on Instagram. And an artist like me is wrong when he thinks he can cure or improve the lives of those who suffer from these pathologies. I think, however, that we need to work on the next generation of parents, because they will be the ones to help their children not to slip into these precipices. I’ll give you an example: speaking of bulimia, today I neither do nor want to make an apology for obesity, but until yesterday a child was taken to the dietician just because he was five kilos heavier than expected. That is a cruel mechanism that has branded me because I will feel fat forever and nothing will ever change my mind. I will walk down the street feeling fat even though I’m not. And I will perpetually feel inadequate. Parents are key in this. And so are educators. And the managers. And here yes, I am referring to Mara Maionchi. I love her and I’m sure that twenty years ago these discussions weren’t so clear. But today a radical change of pace must be made, because mental health is a practical thing that must be practiced. It is a moral obligation to tell people, to artists, that the body is not a negative constraint for their art. I believe that Mara and many other people have not realized enough how traumatic and painful that attitude is which is forever imprinted in the unconscious and in the existence of still fragile children. Today I lose their good faith. But we need to make a mea culpa and no longer take this topic lightly.”
